Anonymous asked: "But women aren’t saying that." Then they should avoid that argument by FUCKING USING THEIR GODDAMN WORDS AND SAYING WHAT THEY ACTUALLY MEAN. Or is it so difficult for them to open their mouths and produce sound a few more times? Should I say that all women are terrible people because a good 98% of the people who have mocked, harassed, and otherwise abused me (a woman as well) are women? Or do women get some kind of Get Out of Jail Free card because they possess a vagina or identify as such?
Look, I don’t know what your personal experiences with other women have been. From what I’ve seen, men can be just as cruel, albeit perhaps in different ways. And it sucks that you’ve had so many women be cruel to you, I’m sorry.
But you are missing the point of that post. Because all those things I say women are saying? Are things I have seen women say and still get replies about how “Not all men are like that.” The post isn’t about some hidden, arcane meaning in what women say. It’s very specifically about men not saying what they mean. It’s about men saying “But not all men are like that,” when what they really mean is “Interrupt your personal worries and fears to take time to flatter my ego, tell me I’m an exception, stop talking about your safety for a minute to make sure you aren’t hurting my feelings, we need to divert the conversation about a condition that puts you at risk and runs virulently through our society to make sure that you acknowledge that I’m a decent person.”
That is why “Not all guys are like that” is bullshit. It’s not about women not saying what they mean. It’s about people not listening to the actual words women are saying, and you’re still trying to blame women for it.
(Plus, y’know, “woman” and “vagina” aren’t synonymous, so…)